Ask Matt: Gender Identity/Sexual Orientation Confusions
In these two letters, we look at the confusion around, and intersections of, sexual orientation and gender identity. Here we go: A reader writes: “I’m dating a trans man now and it’s been amazing. I’m...
View ArticleAsk Matt Briefs: Short Questions, Short Answers
Here are some short questions and short answers. I (and I’m sure the writers) would love to get reader input on any or all: A reader writes: “When someone says they are a transsexual man, does that...
View ArticleAsk Matt: ‘I Can’t Transition Right Now’ Problems
Below we have three letters with a common theme: a desire to medically transition, the inability to do so, and the problems that can create. Each is a little different, so I’m hoping that readers will...
View ArticleAsk Matt: Can a Gay Man Love a Trans Woman?
A reader writes: “I am a gay man and have no doubts really about that. I was late in coming out after being married and having children. However, 15 months ago I started a relationship with a guy who I...
View ArticleAsk Matt: Estrogen, MTF Transition, and Depression
A reader writes: “I am a mother of a son (daughter) who has decided to transition from male to female. He is two months on hormones and tells me he is doing it slowly with a doctor (sexual health...
View ArticleAsk Matt: Coming Out as Trans after Coming Out as Gay
A reader writes: “I am a 39-year-old gay male. Ever since high school, I have geared being more like a female. It was tough when I came out as being gay. I got teased and made fun of in school. My...
View ArticleAsk Matt: Is My Friend ‘Genuinely’ Trans?
A reader writes: “The child of a friend of ours is a 22-year-old trans girl who does not seem to fit the usual ‘trapped in the wrong body’ gender dysphoria profile. X suffered from extensive depression...
View ArticleAsk Matt: The Problem With a ‘Women and Trans’ Night
A reader writes: “Early in the spring a friend of mine who facilitated a ‘Women and Transfolk’ night at a local community shop took a job out of town and asked if I would take over for her while she...
View ArticleShould Trans People Play Trans Characters? Yes and No
The idea of trans people playing trans characters on television, in films, and on stage comes up time and time again, and will probably continue to do so as more trans characters are appearing in...
View ArticleAsk Matt: Hairy Hallucinations of Detransition
A reader writes: “I’m curious if you or any of your readers have any experiences related to hallucinations of detransition – I’m hoping i am not alone in this. “I’ve had two episodes where I look down...
View ArticleAsk Matt: Au Pairs, Bathrooms, and Acne (a Question Potpourri)
What follows is a variety of unrelated questions, but I put them together in hope of reader thoughts and suggestions with regard to these various situations: A reader writes: “I am a 21-year-old...
View ArticleAsk Matt: Do I Owe My Parents Grandchildren?
A reader writes: “I am a 24-year-old transgender girl. I started transition about a year and a half ago, with one month in between where I had major doubts and confusion about my life. “I have asked...
View ArticleAsk Matt: Losing My Masculinity
A reader writes: “I’m a 22-year-old FTM transgendered man and I’ve noticed over the last year that I don’t feel like much of a man anymore – not so much in the way that I regret transitioning or doubt...
View ArticleAsk Matt: Help Needed for Young Trans Woman With Disabilities
A reader writes: “I am the mom of an MTF 17-year-old who transitioned at age 11. She has a rare life-threatening disease causing blindness, hearing loss (wears hearing aids), diabetes, and many other...
View ArticleAsk Matt: Supporting a Muslim Trans Person
A reader writes: “I will be referring to my grandchild-by-choice mostly as male at this time, because he is currently presenting as a gay male. “I am a cis female with many LGBT friends. He is younger...
View ArticleAsk Matt: The Politics of Dating a Trans Woman
A reader writes: “I’ve always considered myself to be very well educated on the different letters in our acronym. However, all it took was one date with a trans woman to realize that I am not. “I am an...
View ArticleAsk Matt: Talking to My New Love About Her Transition
A reader writes: “I recently met a wonderful person and we’ve begun dating. The first time things between us became sexual, he told me that he has gender dysphoria and is currently taking female...
View ArticleAsk Matt: My Feminine Side is Screaming to Get Out
A reader writes: “I have questions, but have never had the strength or will to voice them and ask. I am, of course, a genetically born male, and most of the time I’m fine with that. But more often, in...
View ArticleAsk Matt: We’re Teens, She’s Trans, What To Do?
A reader writes: “I’m a teenage girl and I’m currently attracted to a trans person who is biologically male but identifies as female. I’m completely fine with it, and she and I are interested in...
View ArticleAsk Matt: Should I Defend Myself Against Other Women?
A reader writes: “First off, let me say I despise violence, drama, etc. My nerves can’t handle it, and being bipolar, it’s a huge trigger for depression, etc. Sadly, however, bigots even within our...
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